I’m convinced my wife is offering herself up to her boss for designer gear

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife enjoys the high life so mighty that I’m convinced she’s offering herself up to her boss in alternate for designer gear.

Most upsetting is I’m able to leer she has no map of stopping. 

After I caught her out, she claimed the saucy photographs they’d exchanged acquire been moral flirting. It feels love she’s taking me for a fool. 

I’m 34 & my wife is 32. We’ve been married for four years. 

She’s repeatedly been very career pushed, with a job that takes her all around the place the world.

It never bothered me, as we had a exact relationship and a in point of fact satisfying intercourse life. 

She likes the finer issues in life – issues I’m able to’t repeatedly afford to pay for, love pricey jewelry.

As of late, I noticed she became as soon as turning into distant and I began to get suspicious. She also seemed to acquire unusual designer sneakers. 

I obtained suspicious and determined to review her cell phone when she became as soon as in the shower. 

I found messages from her boss, referencing a conference in a foreign country, with very suggestive remarks. 

There became as soon as even a photo of her in underwear that I’ve never viewed. It seemed sure that one thing sexual had took place between them. 

Gutted, I confronted her. She told me I became as soon as being ridiculous and that the messages acquire been merely flirting. 

She claimed she moral performed alongside with him to preserve him candy. She’s up for a promotion and he or she’s moral making him specialise in she likes him.

It doesn’t ring moral. And where has she abruptly obtained the money for her unusual Louboutins?

To me, her lying is even worse than her dishonest. It feels love I don’t know who she is anymore.

And if she isn’t having an affair, what she’s doing looks tantamount to prostitution.

DEIDRE SAYS: Even supposing your wife is telling the real fact – and it does seem uncertain – then what she’s doing is totally inappropriate, every as an worker and as a wife.

And any boss offering a promotion in return for horny pics would possibly per chance per chance be breaking any firm’s protection and, practically absolutely, the law. 

Talk to her another time and inform her how distressed that you can per chance per chance also very successfully be about this. Query if she’s in point of fact a willing participant, and if the items and promotion possibilities are value ruining your marriage for. 

If she in point of fact doesn’t desire to stop, then you indubitably wish to think whether you wish to live married to someone who has so tiny respect for you and your marriage vows.

My support pack, Cheating, Can You Get Over It?, will doubtless be helpful.